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You've been there. First date. End of meal. The wine's been consumed and the salmon's been picked over. The watier appears and rests a simple slip of paper between the two of you, a slim writ that may decide the future of your relationship.
Mike: So who pays for dinner, the guy or the gal?
Jennifer: Are we talking first date?
Mike: Yeah, first or second or third. Pre-boyfriend-girlfriend phase.
Jennifer: It depends. Who invited whom? The person who invited is the person who should pay, regardless of gender.
Mike: Which means it'll be the guy, right?
Jennifer: Not necessarily. Things are evening up these days.
Mike: Oh really? And when was the last time you asked a guy out to dinner?
Jennifer: Please. I just did-- during the Bush administration.
Mike: Huh huh huh. You said...
Jennifer: The girl should always offer to chip in. If the guy goes for the check, she should at least say, "Can I help you with that?"
Mike: Even on the first date?
Jennifer: Yes, even though on a first date, that moment is a bit uncomfortable for both parties. Of course, it's also a prime opportunity for the male to establish dominance.
Mike: Whatever, Ms. Fossey.
Jennifer: OK, so when should the woman pick up the check?
Mike: By the third date I hope she's offered. After that, I'm dangerously close to crossing the "chump line." After five or six dates, if she's never offered to pay, I can make an assumption about her character.
Jennifer: That's she a parasite? I agree. If women are really looking for equality, they have to ante up on all fronts.
Mike: So, when do you want to go you to dinner?
Jennifer: Anytime-- but you're buying.
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